July 8th, 2009 (03:57 am)
current location:
Home
current mood: depressed
current song: Nothing
When did all of my social contacts start to wither and die? I mean, in my home town. The people I laughed, cried, and grew up with for the last 22 years. Most have become attention seeking drunks, drug users, or have made it a point to quit being productive in any facet of society.
I only have a few people I contact from my home town outside of the occasional bumping into someone late at Walmart. Those select few mean the world to me, while everything around them was collapsing they stood strong and even notice the problems I see.
I've just being getting sicker and sicker hearing of them, and what they've become. Examples: One of my closet ex-friends got married, had a child, and was/is still currently cheating on his wife with the whore ex-fiance of another ex-friend, who has a kid of her own. I want to blow the whistle on this badly, but doing so could land one of my friends in trouble of the physical sort. Another thinks he is tough shit because he thinned out due to rehab and drug addictions(cocaine) and constantly relapses, he is simply too good to hang out with me or anyone else and chooses pot over internet or food. Most don't think they have to work, as society and their parents will provide them everything they could ever want if they bitch enough. I even remember years back when they found it funny to douse frogs in gasoline and ignite them for kicks, or throw flaming toilet paper at houses, or shoot up peoples property with BB guns.
When did my friends become sick, self absorbed monsters? We came from lower/-middle class families in a small town. When did they get this sense of entitlement as well, that they should be cared for? I know it's supposedly an issue cropping up in younger generations now, but where does it come from?
I guess I'm looking for a way to say I stand taller than them without sounding arrogant. They gave up on being creatures of reason and morality. I am by no means a Saint, but I know the difference between right and wrong. Between moderation and addiction. Between justice and crime.
I used to joke that I wanted to go into law enforcement so I could arrest everyone in Tiffin. I really can't say my desire to have them removed from the streets is really a joke anymore.
It pains me, keeps me up at night, and hurts my heart to the point of tears at times to think back fondly on growing up with them. The friendships forged and the good times shared, and then to realize that we don't even resonate at all with one another. Once strong and unbreakable bonds crumbled into nothingness. Sometimes, to be honest, I just want to cry. All I have are fading memories and laundry lists of empty promises made years ago.
I wonder if this is why I have such conflicting social values. I think, at my core, I want to be a relatively social person. It's why I do random things at cons, or I won't turn down an invite somewhere even if I look miserable; a part of me is happy. I live in perpetual, almost paralyzing, fear of people leaving me or outgrowing one another. I find it hard to make friends close to me because of a past of more fights and hatred spawning from things as simple as knowing right from wrong.
I'm sorry. I had to rant.