As a lurk on the forums of upcoming cons, I find it hard to take any time out of my day to post, let alone post anything positive. I see the average age hovering at 14-15 and multiple threads dedicated to parents not wanting to attend or "what should my parents do?". It really takes a bit of my con-weary soul and crushes it a little bit more.
I know most of us started conventions young, hell, my first convention was the day I turned 15 if I remember right. My father, curious as to what this gathering was, bought a badge and escorted me through the con. I know he probably hated it, and I know I was a reckless kid and probably told him I hated the idea, but I think it was the best thing for me, and the con.
Even a year or two later, my crippled mother still insisted on parental guidance and protection. Going so far as camping up in the hotel room the bulk of the convention, making brief visits downstairs to touch base with me and ensure that I was not a liability to the facilities and that I was Safe.
This was, of course, 2002-2004 and therefore is an ancient practice called:
PARENTING.
Now we live in a day and age where 13 year olds have unrestricted access to all the things that we were smart enough to avoid, or our parents intervened and shielded us from. We didn't have things like Myspace, or Facebook accounts glitzed up with pictures of ourselves half naked. We didn't have social networks of strangers numbering the hundreds, and of those hundreds, dozens willing to help us evade our own parents. I'm of course, not bashing children solely, we were all inexperianced youths who tried to be sly at one time or another. A good deal lies with todays parents not caring, Instead of suggesting a family explore the convention together, the 14 year olds are being told by the older minors that there is a mall a few blocks away that they can goto and the parents actually listen to this advice. The don't care, children have cellphones now, they have false bravado brought on by reality shows and self centered stars and starlets, so they must be okay, right? So as a parent, they shouldn't have to do shit unless they end up on a reality show with a nanny who drops in as a 'suprise' and reminds them of how goddamn awful they are at this.
I don't really drink anymore, so I can't goto conventions to party, and I don't think I've outgrown costumes and good times with friends I rarely see. I enjoy seeing what conventions have to offer, but these know-it-alls raised by the digital medium while their parents drop them off and hope for the best are really getting to me. I know I view some things through rose-tinted glasses, but even without them, older conventions just felt better. They felt more fluid, more organic, you felt like you belonged. People were generally more respectful and the phrase 'con-slut' was an actual insult and reserved for the lowest rung of the convention ladder.
I know more and more of you are growing upset with the current affairs, and I hope that together we can try to re-spark some of that old wonder and enjoyment we used to feel.
Tyler T